Gender and Sexuality
Gender and sexuality can be connected sometimes but they are not the same thing.
Gender is more about how you feel about yourself and express yourself. Many people link gender with biological sex, but it doesn’t work that way for everyone.
Sexuality is about who you are attracted to emotionally, physically and in all the different ways people are attracted to each other.
Some youth know for sure that they are attracted to people of the same gender or another gender from a really young age. Other people might take a long time to figure things out. For some people, sexuality is fluid and changes over time.
In the same way, some youth are very sure about their own gender identity at a really young age, and others take a while to figure things out. For some people, gender is fluid and changes over time.
The important thing to remember is that it is totally okay to be confused or unsure. You don't need to rush to label yourself one way or another. It is okay to explore your gender and sexuality and let the answers come to you in your own time.
If you think you might be trans, lesbian, gay, bisexual, queer, gender queer, asexual, or any other diversity label, or if you are questioning your gender or sexuality, there are a lot of places to go for friendship and support. Here at DYS we have The STARS Project for all youth who identify on the gender or sexual diversity spectrums and their friends and supporters. Come hang out with us at The Studio Monday-Thursday from 2:00-7:00 PM. Wednesdays are STARS nights at the Studio and on the first Friday of every month, we host a First Fridays night for LGBTQ* youth.
If you are confused or if you just want to talk to someone about how you are feeling you can check out some resources on our website.
In Ontario, you can call the Lesbian Gay Bi Trans Youthline at 1 800 268 9688.
In Canada, you can call Kids Help Phone.
In the US, you can call The Trevor Project at 866 4-U-TREVOR (866-488-7386)
For more Trans resources, please see Resources for Trans Youth »
For more LGBTQ resources, please see Resources for LGBTQ Youth »